As I write my new book on oral sex techniques, I am reminded of how important it is to make noise during sex. Making noise both heightens your own pleasure and also guides your lover in giving you more of what you want.
Many of us feel really inhibited when it comes to sex, and it turns out that this really limits the pleasure we feel. If your throat is constricted, your pleasure is going to be limited. And, making noise helps guide your partner in giving you more of the kind of touch you want. So free up your voice and see how much more pleasure is available to you.
Here are a few techniques to get you started.
First of all, keep in mind that your sound doesn’t have to sound like porn track. And if you are worried about the neighbors hearing you, make noise into pillow or turn up the music!
Here is the cheat sheet to making more noise during sex, followed by my youtube video on the topic that explores these techniques in more depth:
Start by making sound on exhale. Start with non words: oooooh aaaahh mmmmmmmm sssssssss
Then build up to being able to describe what is being done to you: Oh, I love the way you are sucking my cock, you look so beautiful down on your knees
This can easily progress to requests: I love how you are sucking my cock, would you consider sucking harder?
If all else fails here are four words easy to say during sex: Yes! There! More! Please!
How much noise do you make during sex? How much freedom do you allow yourself to express your pleasure with your voice?