One of the values I try to live by in my relationships is offering complete support and total freedom. I try to offer all of myself in supporting my partner’s goals and happiness, while allowing her to dictate her own path and make her own choices.
Meanwhile, I attempt to find the balance between supporting others and taking care of myself. This is a constant dance for balance: how can I give generously while maintaining enough fuel for my own goals and needs? I know I am a bit off balance when I feel that I’ve left myself behind, when taking care of everyone around me means there is nothing left in my tank for myself. I’m glad I’m practicing this now, as I expect this will only intensify if I become a parent.
Today, I am recommitting to my own needs: writing every day, dancing and walking, eating well. Self-care is really not a selfish act, as it allows us to have way more energy and love to give to others. What more can you do to take care of yourself, so you are fully fueled and ready to support those you love?