If we allow our sex culture to go unquestioned, we allow this most pleasurable and personal part of our lives to be dictated by centuries of oppression.
Make no mistake: the current sex culture we live in is framed by and designed by oppressive forces. It wasn’t designed for your pleasure, your freedom, or your fulfillment. And this is true no matter who you are – straight white rich men included. No matter if you are the prisoner or the guard, being in a prison effects you, changes what is possible for you.
Our human sexuality was stolen from us, long long ago, by forces of evil. It is time to take it back − their grip on it has weakened, now is the time for action. Towards that end, I propose the following basic pillars of our new global sexual culture.
- You have the right to know what your body is made of, what it was designed for. Then YOU choose how to use it and what you want to experience.
- Everyone must have access to affordable health care, including sexual health and reproductive health care, in a non-judgmental and supportive environment.
- It shall be acknowledged and celebrated that human beings are a sexually diverse population, with a wide range of desires and expressions. This diversity shall be considered an asset to the creation of fulfilling sex lives for all humans.
- Long term consequences matter and must be considered before immediate pleasures. True pleasure is sustainable, not merely a temporary high.
- Sexual encounters are for mutual pleasure only. Sexuality is not used for power-over, for manipulation or for violence.
- If not for mutual pleasure, then there must be mutual agreement – such as prostitution. The agreement is to exchange one person’s pleasure for another’s money.
- Sex is designed to be generative, restorative. If it is draining, energy is going somewhere else, like desperately seeking approval or validation. Sex at its best is rocket fuel for the human body.
- There are many configurations for sexual relationships that make sense for different people at different points in their lives. Even long term relationships must undergo radical transformation if they are to survive.
- Sex and Family are different but interrelated. Parenting requires a certain kind of partnership that becomes the primary relationship for a stretch of years.
- No one group shall assume power over another group. The era in which those in power control the sexual freedom and expression of others is coming to an end. We seek sexual liberation for all.
What would you suggest as a pillar of a new global sex culture? Sound off in the comments!